Tips for Dating: #9–11

Dating Tip #9:
Keep people in involved in what’s going on so they can raise a warning sign if they see it.

Don’t ignore those warning signs! Sometimes outsiders to the relationship can can see the problem—abuse, addiction, infidelity, irresponsibility, unfaithfulness—when you yourself become blind to them. Often times the warning signs we want to avoid are pointing toward a long-term problem. Sometimes it’s just the tip of the iceberg. So keep friends and family involved—share the tough stuff—and be aware of those red flags and warning signs that come up.

Dating Tip #10:
Be wise.

Be very wise in your choices. Don’t be rushed into; don’t be blinded by sex. Don’t be fooled by external thing. Take notice of how someone handles crisis situations; this really points toward their character. And character is ultimately who they are in private. Look at the friends of the person you are dating or want to date; you can tell a lot about a person by their friends. Look at the person’s past relationships as well; you can tell a lot about future relationships based upon past relationships have been handled. Overall, take it slow. Time is your friend! Don’t be in a rush no matter how old you are. Don’t be desperate to rush into things. And keep godly friends and family members close; heed their advice. And just be wise.

Dating Tip #11:
Take action.

Don’t just hear what God says about relationships—especially about marriage, what dating is ultimately moving toward—do it. Take responsibility, and take action. Wherever you hear God calling you to do or not to do something, be responsible enough to obey Him. He’s a good Father! His commands are not a burden; they are His loving, fatherly guidance because He cares for you. Stay in the word, hear it, but ultimately take action with it. If God tells you not to do something, don’t do it; that’s what’s best for you. If he tells you to do something, do that; it’s best for you!

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